The Saga Continues...

For fifteen blissful hours, I completely forgot that my family was in utter chaos. Then I came home to O-town.

Here's the latest from mom .... I'm out of it for now.



Jocelyn,
Our approach was obviously very wrong and the five of us reached a decision that has wreaked havoc. And yet to have gone to the source, as you put it, wouldn't have worked either and I think most of us agree with that. So, mistakes were made, but I will not take on the sole blame for these past severe reactions on their part. I also will not lie to anyone that I have concerns about Mike's anger issues and how he lashes out at Ashley when Sandra is not present to witness it. Yes, I could lie and it would make me look mighty good in their eyes, but I am not going to do it. I'm sorry, Jocelyn, but I believe Ashley when she says that Mike has made her feel horrible and scared when he is in these anger modes and it's not something she feels she can discuss with her parents, for whatever reasons, or she would have done it last year instead of coming to me, crying, telling me that he was treating her so mean when her mom wasn't around and that he keeps calling her a selfish bitch. Her words: "I fear Michael so much". So, wiping out 50% of her words and feelings, I maintain that the reamining 50% is true and valid.
We all expressed that Mike has some serious problems, even you. But now you have changed your mind and see Ashley's fears as invalid. That's fine, you have a right to your opinion. But I also have a right to mine. And, forgive me, but I do not agree with your comment that everything they do for Ashley is in her well-being. Mike's uncontrollable anger and name-calling, making her feel that he doesn't love her, even like her, instilling fear in her and accusing her of things she didn't do is NOT in her well-being. Ok, let's discard 50% for everyone's benefit. And the remaining 50?

I am sending these comments to you, and you alone. If I choose to let share them with someone else, that is my decision, I am asking that you respect my decision. But just so you know, if Sandra and Mike ask me why I was so concerned, I will tell them exactly what I have shared with you right now. I'm sorry if you feel that is the wrong thing to do. Anyway, in the meantime, they are stated to you in confidence.
You know that I love you very much. We disagree on some issues, but that doesn't change my love and respect for you. And it never will. You are still my "hijita guapita rosita chiquita" and always will be.
Try to get caught up on your home work and then do something that will take your mind off of all of this.
Please tell Evan hello.
Love you,
Mom